Difficult people —
I really can’t think of anything I would add to the list but I definitely plan to keep that list in mind next time I have to be in a situation with a difficult person, including co-workers, family members, sorority sisters, classmates, etc.
After reading the 12 productive ways to deal with difficult people, I realized that I sometimes actually do some of the things they mention. At times, I have empathized with them, especially if what they’re being difficult about is something I may have previously had an issue with myself. Thanks to my mom, I’ve always been told to consider my own actions. If I’ve ever called her about someone and how they act, she always has asked me how do I act around them and to consider the thought that maybe they act the way they do because of the way I act towards them.
I’ve never looked at a “difficult” person and thought to consider their strengths and weaknesses nor their goals. Trying to see the “deeper” side of someone, like their strengths, weaknesses, goals, ambitions, etc. could make someone you are not fond of, kind of seem more human. Especially if after you’ve tagged them as difficult you find them to be actually kind of interesting. This has actually happened to me before.
There was this what I had deemed annoying girl in one of my classes and everytime she spoke, I would always roll my eyes with kind of the whole “here we go again” routine. The following semester, the girl ended up being in my group for a project and so I was forced to talk to her and actually get to know her. Turns out, she was actually super nice and we had a lot in common. This falls back on judging people too soon, but I also feel like it fits into the “difficult” person conversation because in a way, I found her to be diffcult.
Now that I’ve read the 12 ways, I can sit back and try to find ways to still work fairly well with others that I find difficult, and we all know that there’s always going to be that one person you just can’t get along with!